If he were you, he would never lose interest in coloring the diagram before it was ready to be displayed on the fridge.
But he wasn’t you!
Even when he was your son.
What reasons make him lose interest in the smallest duration tasks even when they were his favorite ones?
Is it a generational issue? It might be, given our new generation has a shorter attention span (thanks to screen).
But it doesn’t mean that the impact of parenting style can be underrated here.
Even in the presence of noises of social media and hundreds of distractions from comic books to video games, to all-time-dinging cell phones, you can raise children with grit.
Yes, even in the chaotic world of today. There are certain tools that will help you in this regard including assigning chores and determining a process to deal with tantrums and failures. But these tools are just that: tools. And they will only address part of the concern.
To get a more comprehensive result affecting the whole life of your child, you need to understand that the whole parenting style should be targeted towards helping children with their focus and interest. Continue reading “4 Qualities of Parents Who Raise Children with Grit”
Will my child ever learn to behave when his peers are around?
Why my son never cleans his room without being told to do so?
How my teen will survive his high-school studies without me running after him?
And above all, ‘will my kid ever grow up to handle his affairs on his own?’
These are some of the questions we ask ourselves every day, week or month. The intensity of these concerns can be mild, representing friction of everyday life, or it can be severe, showing extreme laziness and dependence on others, especially parents.
As parents, we are rightly concerned about the sense of responsibility our adult kids will feel in future and the control they will exert on themselves.
But… Wait. Continue reading “5 Ways to Help Kids in Gaining Self-Control”
Okay! Okay! It wasn’t that long. I was bound to my bed only for the better part of January. Yet, as you can imagine, it disturbed my life at home and at work.
Just imagine you are so ill that you cannot lift your head from your pillow and your toddler/preschooler/pre-tween/or tween wants all that attention from you that was his right before the illness.
You feel incapable and sorry. Continue reading “Parenting Lessons I Learnt from my Loooong (ahem) Illness”
Sorry to disappoint you. I know what you believe about your kid’s success. How highly you thought about them. And what great dreams you have for them.
But I have to break it to you that all your beliefs are grounded in perceptions which have nothing to do with reality. Your talks are clueless. And your dreams are fantasies never going to make their way into the real world.
You have to reconsider your expectations. Period. Continue reading “6 Reasons Your Kid is a LOSER and What YOU Can Do About It”
And it was the final nail in the coffin. After all these trainings and encouragements about taking that damn slide, the young lad was unable to go down that lovely body.
You pointed to other kids who were having the slide. How happy they were! You made him lose hold on the sides. And he went down, enjoying. And next time it was an issue, again. You even threatened him to go down the slide by himself, or you won’t bring him to the park next time.
And he responded by not going down the slide.
You are concerned. And, believe me! You have every right to be concerned. Your child is unable to have fun in situations where other kids are shrieking with fun.
What can you do to build up your child’s confidence?
There must be some way out of it, right? Continue reading “Rescue your child from fears in 5 easy ways”
You are mediocre.
You are an ordinary person with no special talents. You cannot take part in beauty contest at your work place let alone globally. You understand nothing about the world politics and your knowledge about your favorite sport is abysmal. You are also not that happy-go-lucky type of person who never gives a shit about others’ comments regarding their dumbness.
With your plain looks, below average intelligence, and dumb appearance, you are not going to win the world. Now, you have to live your ordinary, boring, dull, and lackluster life. You have no way to escape from your building anxiety and unrest, except to admit it. This is your destiny. With so many issues gathered in a single person, there is no chance of overturning the imperfection overnight or over-centuries.
So you have to make peace with your reality. Adjust with it. And develop your life around it.
This is all life keeps reminding you. Accept your mediocrity to survive. The only talent is contentment.
Continue reading “3 motivational steps from feeling of sheer loss to overflowing self-love”